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It has been a while – I know. I guess I needed a break. Things have been like a whirlwind – and then again all has been so slow. Starting a new life – doing the life search – living in a new country is not always easy – and sometimes life throws a lot at us at once. I have realized that following ones heart can be tiring – and I guess that is why most people don’t dare to find their true self. It is scary and can sometimes take us down a road of doubts. But re-evaluating, feeling the true meaning of ones purpose in life, while it is a challenge, it is also a gift. And I would never want to go back to a life without that search!
While my inner self has somewhat been thorn I have also experienced a great deal of adventures and beauty that have made me feel thankful for this journey we are on.
Visits from good friends.
Walks in nature at Red River Gorge.
Discovering new things in my new hometown.
A visits to the junkyards to find parts for our damaged car turned into a display of transience of material things.
The pleasures of old school hands in dirt gardening and its first cherished fruits.
Help and support from friends when well needed. Thank you. We feel loved.
June – you have started rough – but oh so beautifully! Let the summer begin!
Hope you had a great start to your first summer month – what have you been up to loved-ones?
Big hug from yours truly – and never forget, life is a journey!
Life is full of changes – constantly, and always. Of course as Mike and I decided to go on this journey together and moved to the US, we did know it would bring a lot of changes with it. But never could we have imagined how much it would change us. On April 27th I have officially lived in the USA for exactly a year! Since our first idea of moving to Kentucky and the moment we actually moved, things have sure changed! We have changed. I have changed. The interesting part about it is however, that one cannot foresee the kind of direction your path will lead you on. And I have sure learned a lot of things about me I would have never thought of!
I have discoved my love for a more calm and centered lifestyle. I have discovered my passion for country life and have found my talent for making things from scratch in the kitchen! As I started this journey towards myself, I would have never expected to find an urban farmer, a chicken lover, a apple butter microprocessor, a veggie gardener, a passionate homemaker within me! When I left my job and city-girl-lifestyle behind me in Vienna Austria, little did I know what I would find! I knew the life I was leading was not true to me. I knew I was searching and I knew I had not found it yet, but never ever would I have expected what I found within this year! I am grateful for the opportunity I had and still have to actually go on this journey. To pack up my old life and discover what parts of my soul would unravel in a different setting. And I love it!
To add to these changes more gradual changes, Mike and I have taken further steps to change our life! We have become business owners! I no longer work at the consignment shop I told you about, but am working from home now, helping Mike build an exotic animal import business! Yes!!! I know – who would have thought! And while the business in itself is quite unusual, those of you who know Mike are not surprised!
We opened an LLC by the end of last year, and handed in all the paper work to get started. The first 3 months were kind of researching the market, getting all import papers figured out, applying for all the permits and building a professional website and brand. As for me, since I came back from my Euro-trip in March, I am working from home, helping Mike build the business. Very new life style to get used to! Working from home has great perks, however, I am still getting used to creating my own schedule, finding out which steps to take and how to work out a business structure for myself. It is sometimes a battle, finding myself in it, finding my own speed, work-style and organization, but I am getting there! We are getting there!
I am therefore happy to present to you – True Arts Reptiles LLC!!! We officially launched our website, so make sure to go over to http://www.trueartsreptiles.com and take a look. We put a lot of effort and work into the site! Let us know what you think! Aaand…you can find us on Facebook under http://www.facebook.com/trueartsreptiles – make sure to like us there as well!
So as you can see – not only has our new life in Kentucky changed our lifestyle – it has also changed us and the way we choose to life our lives.
I sure must say: Life is a Journey! Have a great day loved-ones!
While family is extremely important to me, I have grown to appreciate my friends for what they are: a chosen family. I truly believe that my friends and the people I surround myself with make up my true wealth and define my happiness in a great part. Visiting my family and friends in Austria and Germany reminded me of the importance of cultivating my relationships and being thankful for all the wonderful people (new and old) who keep me in their hearts even when an ocean lies between us. I thank you for being there for me through laughs and tears, through parties and dark holes. Thank you for taking time out of your busy lives to share good moments! You are truly loved.
The issue of friendship and its advantages but also the pain that can resolve from bad or uncultivated friendships has been something I have been reflecting on lately and I have been doing quite some reading on this matter. I have come to realize quite some things and it has been an inner process of growth. I would like to share some of my insights with you.
“Show me your friends and I will tell you who you are.” As this Greek saying states, our friends form us. We are a product of the people we surround ourselves with. As much as our families shape who we are, friends are responsible for a big portion of who we have become and who we will be. The author Carlin Flora discussed this in her book “Friendfluence” (2013). “Friendfluence is the powerful and often unappreciated role that friends (…) play in determining our sense of self and the direction of our lives” (Flora, p. 6).
While parents are our guides, our childhood friends help teach us important life skills, socialize us so to say. Our teen friends help shape our later romantic bonds and “are a training ground for the later long-term bonds that will evolve through adulthood.”(S. Kraus Whitbourne in Fulfillment at any Age in Psychology Today March 2013)
Entering adulthood, friends continue to form your vital life skills. You probably know that enlightening feeling after a good conversation with a close friend, when you realize that the conversation has just brought you closer to understanding yourself. As Flora points out: “friends are better at describing our behavioral traits than we are” (Flora, p. 132). Because friends know us so well, they are able to see things that we can’t, and aren’t afraid to share their dose of reality with you. Such a reality check might sometimes be hurtful at first, but accepted, such insights will help us grow! Don’t be hurt and fast with cutting off dear friends because they told you something you did not want to hear – reflect on yourself and be thankful for having honest friends. Such friends will help sharpen your mind, help you know yourself better, even inspire you to reach your goals and might even help you meet romantic partners. Thank you Laura! 🙂
Close friends will help you through thick and thin, and yes it sounds kind of old, but when it comes to friends, quality is more important than quantity. I am not saying that you should not meet new people – absolutely! Be open and communicative – but put your main effort into your close friends. You do not need hundreds of so-so-friends to get you through life!
Because of their influence upon us, friends can also make us miserable – and I have had my fair share of that as well! “The people who know you the best are also the ones who have the most power to betray you” (S. Kraus Whitbourne) and that can hit you like a rocket through the heart. The pain can be excruciating and healing will take its time. You might second doubt yourself, asking yourself what you did wrong, how you could have misunderstood or simply how you could have been so wrong about that person in the first place. But don’t be afraid to say no to friends who disappoint, betray, or stress you. Sometimes you may have to prune your friendship tree as S. Kraus Whitbourne puts it. I am not saying you should be opportunistic – the closest friends like each other for who they are in themselves, not for what they deliver. But if the balance between making you feel good versus making you feel bad is out of wack, it is time to move on. Friends should help you grow. Support you. Cheer you on. If they stifle you and put you down – they are not a true friend. As Oscar Wild put it “anybody can sympathise with the sufferings of a friend, but it requires a very fine nature to sympathise with a friend’s succes” And those are the people you want to have around you. As for all paths to happiness, it is good to focus on what makes us feel good, not what brings us sorrow and makes us feel bad about ourselves!
We all get caught up in a rut once and a while. And we all sometimes have that feeling of being all alone and unloved. This feeling is deeply human and we most of us have experienced it at some point or another in our lives. In such times, it is important to remind ourselves that we all feel that way sometimes, but that no matter how lonely life may seem, there are always people out there that love us – just the way we are! By focusing on the relationships we are gifted with, we are able to “lift some of the burden from our apparently unhappy, isolated selves” as the British writer Mark Vernon states in his book The Philosophy of Friendship. In moments of despair we tend to look inward and forget about our blessings. Friends are a blessing, and need to be cultivated. The philosopher Aristotle said, “In poverty and other misfortunes of life, true friends are a sure refuge. They keep the young out of mischief; they comfort and aid the old in their weakness, and they incite those in the prime of life to noble deeds.” Friendships are vital for wellbeing, but they take time to develop. Like in all relationships, love requires time. Paradoxically being a good friend also includes asking them for help when you need it. “Giving someone the gift of being influential can be one of the greatest joys you pass on to your friends.” (S. Kraus Whitbourne)
So go out there, cherish your friends, meet new people, widen your perspective and cultivate your friends. “Being a friend is a great honor and responsibility, so treat your friends carefully” (Flora, p. 235) But don’t be afraid to say goodbye to people that keep you from growing. It will set you on your path towards happiness! Trust me.
Wow – that was a long post. Hope you enjoyed it nevertheless.
Have a great week loved-ones! And as usual, don’t forget – life is a journey! Choose your companions carefully.
Hi there everyone! So it was Valentine’s Day and I received a couple of questions concerning our Valentine’s Day. (more…)
Finally the days are filling up with rays of sun again!! I don’t know about you guys, but towards the end of winter – or more like the second half of it – I start to get kind of exhausted of the lack of sun. I feel tiered, getting out of bed is a real drag and I basically feel like staying between the warm sheets for EVER! I truly believe the human species should go back to taking a winter sleep (did we ever do this back in time?)! I am just way less productive and seam to drift into a wintery blues kind of state. (more…)
Dear all, Mike is back and we finally got chance to celebrate Christmas and New Years Eve all wrapped in one! It was amazing to be able to hold him in my arms again and spend the last hour of the year of 2013 with him, since he arrived in Louisville at 11 p.m. on New Years Eve! We spend a calm and comforting evening at home, taking our us-time, dinning on a home cooked feast and enjoying the far away sound of exploding fireworks on the back porch! What a marvelous way to start the new year! I hope you all enjoyed your evening and we wish you a great start into the year of 2014!! May it be marvelous and splendid! (more…)
Now that the Indian Summer has left us, and we are spending our Sundays in the garden raking the fallen leaves off the grass, I have had some time to think about our first summer here in Louisville. And I must say it was a great one! As I went through my pictures, I noticed there were quite some things I did not get a chance to share with you. So as an ode to this perfect summer, I put together a short recap of our first Kentucky summer! (more…)
Fall has slowly made its way to Louisville – quite a change for us Austrians, ’cause this time of year back home, the trees are already nacked and winter is settling in. In Kentucky the leaves are only now starting to change colors and lay out a colorful carpet in our garden. It is still quite warm as well, making the days we have needed a jacket outdoor a single digit. I am very much enjoying these late indian summer days, sucking up the sun as much as I can. (more…)
Hello there everyone! I know it has been long since my last post…waaaay too long and I am sorry about that! I was very bussy and have done a lot of things and I will try to update you on everything as soon as possible. But I want to be honest with you, I have been in a bit of a rut and have been having a rough time. (more…)
Some days – and I am sure we all know these kind of days – you kinda feel out of place. With everything that has changed the last few weeks, I guess it’s ok to feel overwhelmed and lost. Today it has been hard to figure out with what to start in the morning, especially when there is no routine in place. Without a job, a house, a car, friends by my side, days like today can be hard. I start wondering why on earth I am doing all of this…wouldn’t it have been easier to just stay in the known nest. I guess…but then again, I am following my dream.
I wanted to live in the US and I wanted to take the time to figure out what my calling is. But today the grey sky weighed heavily and nothing felt quite right. I booked a flight to Washington, so that I can go visit my cousins Melissa and Luise; I wrote some emails; I tried to find houses online that are up for rent.
And then I started feeling overwhelmed, lonely and sad. I misses Mike, and I miss my friends in Vienna. I miss being independant and being able to jump into public transportation and just go downtown for a coffee. I started feeling discourage and wondered if this blog is contributing anything interesting to the endless noise online, wondered if I would find a house and a car, and what kind of job I would be looking for, and if our finances would all work out and so forth and so on. It was a hard day in the feelings department.
There is so much to be thankful for and things could be much harder. I do feel thankful for the opportunity of following my heart, being lucky enough to have an amazing husband at my side, encouraging me and cheering me on even if he is on the other side of the globe and has a lot on his own plate right now. I am thankful for my family that tries to help me out in every possible way they can.
A friend reminded me however that it is ok to be where I was today sometimes. It’s okay for me not to put on a smile and get it together. It’s ok to take it slow. I guess I am still adjusting over here.
Sharing it helps me process everything that is going on and I know this will not feel like this forever.
I also think a good nite”s sleep will make the world look brand new tomorrow.
Have a good one loved ones!